We’ve all heard the phrase before, “It’s not how you start that matters, it is how you finish.” While that is true, I believe how you start things has a huge influence on whether you will finish successfully. I uncovered this great workbook by Seth Godin called Pick Four (available on Amazon) that breaks it down for us using a scientifically proven method.
While you and I have been busy spending time and money trying to change, and usually failing, scientists have been busy trying to figure out what actually works. And now they know:
- Small steps work.
- Consistent effort works.
- Support from peers works.
That’s it. Three things. Set a goal and in small consistent steps work to reach it. Get support from peers when you start running out of steam. Rinse and Repeat. You will change.
Science has proven that if you want to change your life and you apply these three steps to any goal – you will be successful. You now know the secret to success, otherwise known as the goal process. So what’s next?
3 Steps: (easy to describe, incredibly difficult to do)
- Accept that people following the goals process accomplish more. Your effort pays off.
- Choose wisely. Pick from among the many things you want to achieve and are willing to do the work to achieve.
- Stick with the program. Do it every single day until you’re done or until you realize that you don’t actually want the thing you said you wanted.
The results of hundreds of studies on individuals and groups who have been through the goals process are clear: it works. The studies won’t matter if you’re not willing to accept the uncomfortable steps you’ll need to go through to get started. The steps you don’t want to do – unless you want to achieve your goal:
- Write down your dream list. Without censoring yourself, make a list of anything you think you would like to be, do or have. Anything. (scratch off anything illegal or that defies the laws of physics)
- The Why. For the items that remain, write down what’s in it for you and the people you care about if you reach this goal. If you can’t come up with something, cross it off.
- Balance your goals. Make sure your goals fall into various aspects of your life. (i.e. career, family, financial, mental, physical, social, spiritual). If you are too heavily weighted in one area, you may want to rethink the list.
- From your list pick only 3 you are going to start with and do the following exercise for each:
Goal #1
- Benefits from reaching this goal
- Skills or knowledge required to reach this goal.
- Major obstacles you will face.
- Individuals and organizations needed to help you.
- Plan for reaching this goal
If you stick with it for 60 days, you will be amazed. Unbelievable success is available to all of us, if we are willing to follow a simple process.
*The steps and content from this article came from Zig Ziglar’s Legendary Goals Program, Updated and Simplified by Seth Godin, available on Amazon.com

